As I’ve intimated in the past, I have a couple of huge life changes happening this year. For privacy, I won’t lay those out specifically, but one regards my family and the other regards my career. Both are objectively negative occurrences that I haven’t been looking forward to, and now that they’re starting to happen, I am struggling to cope with the uncertainty that is now my future. My world is changing in a huge way, and the challenge for this year is learning to cope with the new normal.
One of the things I’m trying to learn from all of this is that there is usually some sort of good thing that comes out of changes like these. We will never like when something happens that forces us to change direction in an unwanted way, but many times these alterations to our lives come with some unexpected benefits. The amazing thing about life is that even if you know what is going to happen, you never really know what is going to happen.
The career aspect of this year is terrifying to me, not because I’m afraid of not being able to find work, but because I am afraid of being forced to take yet another job that doesn’t advance my personal agenda. I stated before that I’m hoping to find a way to make mobile income so I can live the alternative lifestyle I’ve been dreaming of for some time now, and this forced end to my current employment could shove me right back into another job that holds me back from my plans. My fear is less about making money and more about the existential problem of living my best life.
The other big part of my life that is changing will likely have many things I don’t like, but also some things that will likely be better. Because it is family related I won’t go into them here, but I can see how some things will be better for everyone involved because of the changes that are being mad today. I still don’t like it, and a part of me hopes for something to come along to stop it, but since I know there isn’t anything I can do about it, I’m trying to find the positives.
These are the sorts of things that people deal with every day. They are life altering events for us, but events of this magnitude are happening all the time. When they happen to us, they seem like impossible hurdles to overcome, but when we think about it in the bigger picture, it becomes clear that no matter how difficult it seems to be, the fact that so many people deal with these things the same as we do can help us to realize that we’re going to make it through to the other side just fine. If they can do it, we can too.
Knowing this doesn’t mean that it will be any easier, however. Our emotions are intensely personal and no situation is exactly the same. There are many people going through things that are far worse than what my issues are, and they have a harder path ahead of them. Whatever our situation is, it won’t be something that we can think our way into making it less painful to live through. All we can do is find ways to strengthen our armor against the challenges we face.
This blog has been divided between various different topics ranging from politics to philosophy to self help, and I find that by far the ones that mean the most to me are these articles where I reflect on ideas that are meant to help not only you, the reader, but also myself. I don’t believe that any of the articles I’ve posted so far contain anything that you didn’t already know before you read them, but sometimes hearing it in a different way can help us to understand it more fully, or in a way we didn’t consider before. I certainly feel that writing it all down has helped me to solidify my perspective on topics such as this.
As I look to these major changes in my life, I’m trying to see the good things that could come out of them. My hope is that my upcoming unemployment situation will lead to something that allows me to move into a career that gives me the freedom that I so desperately desire. The family changes might lead to a better life for those involved, and maybe even a better relationship as we are forced to figure things out. Perhaps the good will simply be the emotional growth that comes from dealing with such a big challenge. Whatever it is, I hope I recognize it when I see it.
How do you feel about change? Are you excited when it happens, or do you feel anxiety? What kinds of changes have you experienced that you thought were going to be negative, but turned out to have unexpected benefits? Learning to look at the future with a positive lens can help us make the transition from one phase of life to the next in a much easier way, and might be the difference between the change being bad or good. It is up to us to make it happen.
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